Solo Woman POV on Romantic Relationships & Full Time RV or Van Life

Solo Woman POV on Romantic Relationships & Full Time RV or Van Life
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  1. I believe in your philosophy I have had to hurt a few people in a relationship because I have wanted them to come with me but they was not able to it is harder than you think to find someone that you can be with and all the things work out the puzzle workout right.

  2. Hi Jill. Another interesting & thought provoking. Video. I find it particularly interesting how you deem getting closer to someone as "investing". If I invest in the stock market and the stock goes down I lose my investment. I guess it is like if I give you a piece of my heart and you leave you will take it with you. On the flip side if I leave it will leave me in doubt because I'm leaving part of my heart. ie my investment. Scary proposition involving possible pain. I ran fearfully from that pain in the first half of my life. Not fully giving myself even in my marriage of 10 years. I put effort into not giving into that fear today. I know it sounds Masculine and maybe even silly, but today I say "bring it". It's better than the pain of living the closed off self I used to live.

  3. The key phrase that hit home, "Not living within the system". The only way to win the game, is to not play the game. We need to find someone who is awake and doesn't wish to play "the game" with you, any longer. That's the only way blissful happiness and the true essence of our inner being can be exposed; as it was meant to be…MHO

  4. Older, refined, educated gentleman looking for woman who likes to fish and has a boat. To apply please send picture of boat :-)…….From what I can tell; the people who have made your same choice for living……… love it. That life style before tv's, computers and cell phones was very social and everyone knew their neighbors. That life style is similar to the RV nomad life style. I also admire your choice. My father raised us siblings as workaholics. Now that I have retired I try to pull away from that life style and see how my older brother has a very difficult time getting off the treadmill. To quote from my favorite book some things that relate to your topic of living in the world but not being really part of this world and being alone but not lonely for many friends: Ecclesiastes 4 New King James Version (NKJV)
    4 Then I returned and considered all the oppression that is done under the sun:

    And look! The tears of the oppressed,
    But they have no comforter—
    On the side of their oppressors there is power,
    But they have no comforter.
    2 Therefore I praised the dead who were already dead,
    More than the living who are still alive.
    3 Yet, better than both is he who has never existed,
    Who has not seen the evil work that is done under the sun.

    The Vanity of Selfish Toil
    4 Again, I saw that for all toil and every skillful work a man is envied by his neighbor. This also is vanity and grasping for the wind.

    5 The fool folds his hands
    And consumes his own flesh.
    6 Better a handful with quietness
    Than both hands full, together with toil and grasping for the wind.

    7 Then I returned, and I saw vanity under the sun:

    8 There is one alone, without companion:
    He has neither son nor brother.
    Yet there is no end to all his labors,
    Nor is his eye satisfied with riches.
    But he never asks,
    “For whom do I toil and deprive myself of good?”
    This also is vanity and a grave misfortune.

    The Value of a Friend
    9 Two are better than one,
    Because they have a good reward for their labor.
    10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
    But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
    For he has no one to help him up.
    11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;
    But how can one be warm alone?
    12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
    And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

    Popularity Passes Away
    13 Better a poor and wise youth
    Than an old and foolish king who will be admonished no more.
    14 For he comes out of prison to be king,
    Although he was born poor in his kingdom.
    15 I saw all the living who walk under the sun;
    They were with the second youth who stands in his place.
    16 There was no end of all the people over whom he was made king;
    Yet those who come afterward will not rejoice in him.
    Surely this also is vanity and grasping for the wind.

    P.S. Jill, I noticed your two children lounging behind you. They must be great company. Pets are a joy!

  5. I traveled for 14 months, then stayed put for 2 years. I found I was never cold enough or warm enough in the RV.
    Got a government owned home.
    I like it better, 34 years married / he passed never looked to replace him. Stay by myself/ have pets.

  6. "inviting someone in to share your space"……oh so scary….lol.

    Stumbled across your vid as I am going solo myself later this year with my two dogs and was searching for solo full timers. I will have a home base in upstate NY for July and August campground, national forest, blm and probably everywhere else are packed during that time. I need space not from someone but from the way things are and are going these days.

    Your comments about a RV personal relationship distills the issues down pretty good:) The more important of the two points for a RV personal relationship, including with a female, is why invest my time in this particular person. The why has many different answers for different people,. The correct answer in my opinion would have to be loyalty, trust, spirituality, common interests or a willingness to try other things from what you prefer if the other person really like whatever it is and of course unadulterated truth:)

    Good luck out there and thanks for the interesting topic!

    Cheers

  7. two things – 1) reminded me of the popular song by Gayle Garnett – "We'll sing in the sunshine" catchy tune but if you pay attention to the lyrics it's hard to see how a person who is psychologically and socially well adjusted could like it.  IMHO  LOL.  2) I have yet to meet a woman who is not already "in a relationship" who doesn't throw up the disclaimer "I'm not looking for anything"…  LOL…some men too.

  8. After seeing a number of your videos I think you are a very intelligent beautiful independent woman. Very interesting for sure. Hope to discuss more with you at a later time.

  9. I'm single and about to embark on RV living myself. I too have been wondering about this topic, as I would like to find a partner/relationship. I am VERY particular in what I'm looking for and it has been impossible to find someone who wants the same things in life. I want to travel, minimize, and enjoy life with someone but finding someone who I'm attracted to who wants the same things, and doesn't have children still at home is really tough. I also have a unique position to where I make GREAT money but have to go overseas to work for 2 months at a time, then I'm home for 2-3 months of which I don't have to work. So finding someone who can deal while I'm gone, yet wants to be with me while I'm home has been again TOUGH.

  10. I returned and listened to your msg agn after listening to your latest about God and freedom that l commented back more than on any other site. These two are thematically linked. God in his or her many forms has a love and relationship component. Substitues like artifical intelligence can have a relationship component but l fail to see or appreciate any kind of love. Existentially we are alone in this universe, our journey thru life. Since many are born into reasonably loving "families" we carry that experience with its feelings along with us. For many that seminal experience grows as we mature and expand our knowledge base (that includes learning from our experience). Listening to your ideas agn l better understand the variations & challenges you describe. As you point to if not conclude, it's a matter of choice, our freedom to decide. How do we, as finite creatures braving it all cope with our aloneness. The choices we make are our unigue answer to filfilling that need. In a nomadic life style you discuss, creates some different challenges but from my perspective, they are quite parallel. Some who are physically alone, like monks and sequestered nuns are linked to the traditional God…they are in a spiritual vs physical relationship. There the individual may change as in becoming nomadic or becoming a settler (tho nuns in my example are typiucally not physically nomadic), their concept of God is she is constant, always present no matter where the individual goes. In some ways that's the simplist and perhaps most filfilling experience….one is free to shuttle between nomadic or static while God is always available….the perfect internet connection.

    The bottom line is we are all transient and searching. Today you have settled on a basis that works for you. As you all too well know tomorrow makes us different so it requires reaffirming or rejecting today's choice. One listener commented love has a way of finding someone who is not looking for it or thinks they need it. In another video you said a woman has the freedom to change her mind…now that was humor to go where you said you weren't going to go. However you know that applies to the other gender, only when we can get away with it! ….humor right back. In the end it's the freedom to make choices based on how we understand our own personal needs, our analytic understanding of it and our experiences. For me personally l am in a conandrum over what l have lived for decades and what's going on presently. It comes down to a simple pop psychology principle: the pain of staying the same must be larger than the pain to change vs or one won't change. Freedom yes but motivation….well that's another factor.

  11. As a 63 yr old I am set in my way and I know I am not perfect . But I also understand if I am going to share my life with anyone there has to be give and take. I would be willing to open my life and belonging with a lady after knowing her a while. I would not be easy convinced to park my bus or give up my things to go with a lady in her bus. I do very much like the idea of having a special someone and us travel togeather but in our own rigs. I would gladly share and give to her and hopefully she would me . As we travel down the road if one wanted to stay longer or go in a different direction then the other one could follow or they could split and have a rendezvous spot and time to meet it seems like a great way

  12. You know what I just only met you and compromise is I'm thinking everything that your willing to give. And compromise from me is everything that you may expect . You're living in the trailer. I just want to live a simple life. I'm the hard-working man who just really does not want anything other than getting away from everything else. No disrespect to the cow's butt one or two might be nice but I can think of better places to live with a cow and a goat and a sheep in a duck and rabbits. If do you want to join me you can I think that you can.

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